Last night I was at my middle daughter Laurie’s 40th Birthday Party. She had the most diverse great group of close friends who all came out to wish her a happy birthday. One nice young lady came up to me and thanked me for the attached document that I wrote in 2012 after a Rosh Hashanah sermon given by our Rabbi. Laurie evidently sent it to her whole list. I had totally forgotten that I wrote it but it’s in my computer’s archives and I’ve decided to resend it to my Blog after rereading it. It’s one of the truest things I’ve ever written.
Each person should write their own ethical will and give it to their family.
Jaclyn just asked me if I was going to write an ethical will today. Mom and I already have a regular will that has all the standard will bells and whistles, plus I prepared a video tape to flesh out details. It has no surprises so isn’t for discussion here.
An ethical will as suggested by Rabbi Caplan might go as follows:
I wish good health to all my relatives. In that regard I implore you to fully investigate what I’ve devoted my whole career to I.e. Integrative Medicine. Drugs and things like antibiotics and sleeping pills, statins, etc. are inherently REALLY HARMFUL and UNHEALTHY. I encourage all of you to do as much study as you can to educate yourselves into what I’ve spent my whole end of career into promoting and learning. I’d love nothing better than to see one or more of the grand kids into deciding to be a practitioner of Integrative Medicine.
Politics really does govern our lives. My high school history teacher told us that to know the history of our own lifetimes that we should simply read the New York times every day. I’ve done that for 50 years now and encourage you all to do the same. I especially advise you to get involved with the leadership of any organizations you join. It earns you respect and keeps you out of trouble if you ally with the side that’s CORRECT. The one time I allied with the wrong side, I just about lost everything including my freedom. Make sure you go out and vote.
Love your family and respect those that are your equals. Take out the garbage or clean your room even when it’s not your turn or you just don’t want to. Your discomfort is known to the other party and when you do it anyway, it can earn you unexpected rewards. Not following this advice myself has cost me more than you can imagine.
Wine really is mentioned over 470 times in the Bible. It truly is a beverage that comes from the light (God). Learning what it’s all about is both healthy and gives you a leg up on making friends and influencing people.
Education is worth more than money in having a fulfilled life. Go as far as you can in school and than don’t stop learning afterwards.
Religion and spirituality are real. Focusing your mind through prayer and concentration connects you to the POWER unseen of the universe.
The study of astrology has been an integral part of my life and education. Its a very real discipline. Its interpretation however is very subjective and can be misinterpreted by those who might have ulterior motives. Therefore it’s best to learn it yourself so that if you seek outside professional interpretation, you will have the personal ability to discern the truth.
Learn how to make others laugh without being hurtful to someone else. It has unseen benefits.
Never lie or cheat. The negative energy it creates within yourself can be truly painful. I knowingly lied once to my father at age 17 and the memory of doing it has remained with me since I did it and is very embarrassing to me.
True love never dies.
Be kind to animals. You might screw up and be reincarnated as an animal to be taught a lesson. No matter how much it might seem good to fall asleep with your dog it’s a lot more fun to sleep next to another human who loves you.
When you make a deal with someone in business, a handshake with someone you trust can be more ironclad than a 100 page contract. The secret is learning out how to tell who you can really trust.
Pictures taken with your eyes and stored in the hard drive of your brain can be more valuable than the ones on your iPad or photo album. Be in the moment.
Having money really is very important, but being totally debt free isn’t always the best advice. Those that do without to be totally debt free aren’t always the ones who end up the richest. You will never see a Brinks truck at a funeral and having a $30,000 casket that goes into the ground after being on display for a 2-hour funeral is a huge waste of money.
This could be a growing document that I’ll add to from time to time.